For older children the ‘goal-plan-do-check’ is really useful.  So, you make a goal together, make the plan together as to how they’ll do that, then you carry it out, and then you go back over what you did to talk about how that fitted with what they wanted to achieve and change anything that needs to be changed.  We use photographs to show the plans.  For example, for a young person to learn to tie their shoelaces, we took photos of every step of the sequence.  In the ‘check’ step, we could then move the photos around to try a sequence that might work better for the young person.